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Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light for my path. 

– Psalm 119:105

Was It Enough?

8/6/2018

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Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6

I’ve said it a hundred times; “Comparison is the thief of joy!”  But that doesn’t stop me from getting a little carried away sometimes.  As a parent, I find myself exceptionally quick to compare.  One of the really great parts of being a teacher is that I get to see families in action.  I am impressed constantly at the parenting I see happening in this community.  I’ve seen tough love, gigantic humor, incredible logic, deep faithfulness and inspiring mercy.  When I see a parent do something awesome I often say to myself, “Geeze, why didn’t I ever do that!”  I see parents who are more creative than I was, more patient than I was, more prayerful than I was and I often feel like I should send my kids a note of apology…especially the first one!   Knowing what I know now, there are lots of days I’d like to go back a couple of decades and start over because my kids deserved a  mom that was more fun, more carefree, and much less…well…nuts about things like picking up socks and brushing teeth and all the other stuff I thought was a big deal at the time.  

When the comparisons get me all flustered, I stop myself and realize I did the best I could and that the kids have a super great dad who balanced me out.  It’s about then that I also realize that the one thing I REALLY got right then (and now) is to pray for my kids dozens of times a day.  That makes me sigh in relief because despite my shortcomings as a mom, God’s really the one in charge!  Sometimes I still look back and hope I got more things right than screwy!  I hope I taught them enough lessons about truth, compassion, faith and kindness.  I think as parents we sometimes get lost in the fear of “did I do/ or am I doing enough.”  We second guess ourselves and we compare.  I think sometimes we hold ourselves to the most ridiculous, impossible standards.  We let Pinterest be our compass.  We think if we’re sitting still we’re wasting time  and we forget that they are his, not ours.  He made them perfect and no amount of glow in the dark slime, elite ball teams or private lessons in anything will ever top the perfection with which they were created, nor will I ever be able to top the love and protection the creator has for them.  Comparisons are not the work of the Father.  

As we prepare for the first of the three little Wohlferts to get married, I was feeling sentimental, old and inadequate.  I was making this list in my mind of all the things we didn’t do like go to Disney, let the kids play every sport they wanted or take trips that exposed them to culture, art and travel.  We went to Grandpas in Kansas, went camping and spent most of every summer raising livestock getting ready for the 4-H fair.  I got a little carried away thinking I hadn’t done enough when I came across this letter written by a foster child from Oklahoma.  It sort of put everything in perspective.  The child was asked to write about the things they wanted in a family.  Here is the response…

In my family I want  food and water.  Don’t hit on me.  A house with running  water and lights.  I want love.  Mom and Dad don’t fight.  I want no drugs.  Don’t kill my pets.  Help me with school.  Nice clean clothes.  No lice or bugs in the house.  Clean house and a clean bed with covers.  Don’t sell my toys.  To be treated fair.  Don’t get drunk.  TV in the house.  Let me keep my games and school stuff.  Nice shoes.  My own comb. Soap. Nice safe house with a heater.  A coat and a toothbrush. 

After I finished my big ole ugly cry, I thanked God for my parents, then I prayed for the astonishing number of kids who could have easily written that letter and then I realized that things like trips, fancy stuff and being the Pinterest Mother of the Year meant nothing.  Turns out I gave my kids more than I realized…they were prayed for, read to, loved, challenged and held responsible.  They had to work and sometimes entertain themselves and figure things out.  As I often do,  I had let things spin sideways in my mind and left God’s work out of the picture, taking on the weight of it all myself.  I suppose once again I got a lesson in trading comparison for gratitude!

A Seed To Plant:  Make a list of all the places you compare yourself to others.  Pray with that list for a couple of days and then tear it up and ask God to help you replace those comparisons with gratitude.  If you’re a parent, stop and say a prayer for each of your children right this minute and then go play; dinner can be late, laundry can pile up and dishes can be washed later…just go play for a few minutes!  If you’re not a parent, what can you do to help one and all of us need to stop and pray for families everywhere!​

Blessings on your day!
10 Comments
Geri
8/6/2018 09:30:54 am

Wow, that was wonderful!

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Jon
8/6/2018 09:38:13 am

Excellent Sheri!!

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Paula
8/6/2018 09:41:22 am

Thank you. I needed that.

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Evie
8/6/2018 10:27:58 am

For most of my career, I was a middle school vocal music teacher. The last two years, I taught third grade. At Christmas the kids would write a wish list which I took to a local bank for Santa. One kid wrote he just wanted a toothbrush. A TOOTHBRUSH!!! Oh, I cried. I know the poverty in my district is high. I, too, have lived many years in poverty. But, I always had a toothbrush!
Believe me, that little boy got a toothbrush....and a little bit more for Christmas!!!

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V Cuppage
8/6/2018 12:35:07 pm

I really needed this today. Thanks.

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Julie
8/6/2018 02:36:10 pm

Thank you thank you thank you. You once again touched my heart.

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Ceil
8/6/2018 02:42:24 pm

Sheri pat yourself on the back for all the things yu did do right. Kids need to learn to pick up their own socks and how to consider others in the family and our world. I wish you could give lessons to so many parents today. I give thanks every day for my parents lessons both vocally and by example and discipline! Hope the wedding preparations are going well. Enjoy your blog no end! Luv’nhugs Ceil

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Amy
8/6/2018 04:46:12 pm

Thank you!!! I needed that :)

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Annette
8/6/2018 09:09:11 pm

I always told our kids if I gave you everything you wanted you would have no wants. It's hard to be a parent with all this world has going on. Praying is the best thing a parent can do for their kids. You did good Sheri.

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Amy
8/9/2018 01:13:19 pm

LOVED THIS!!! Thanks so much!

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